🫂 big hugs to you. As a behaviorist who has written a lot about grief, all of this resonates. I think grief is a good example of a response class in collapse—and the black hold metaphor is apt. It is the ultimate kid of extinction; evocative events still evoke behavior with seemingly no place to go. Holding all at once is all we can do. That, and remembering that you aren’t just you. Those 24 years created a you where he lives on.
🫂 big hugs to you. As a behaviorist who has written a lot about grief, all of this resonates. I think grief is a good example of a response class in collapse—and the black hold metaphor is apt. It is the ultimate kid of extinction; evocative events still evoke behavior with seemingly no place to go. Holding all at once is all we can do. That, and remembering that you aren’t just you. Those 24 years created a you where he lives on.
The response class in collapse-you nailed it.
It’s the ultimate extinction boss level in the video game/simulation we live in
Thank you so much ❤️❤️